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Control & Letting Go: Give it to the Trees
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Control & Letting Go: Give it to the Trees

Question: How do I let go of things I can’t control? A Dave and Heidi story: the cynical season or “life on the edge” and our first forest therapy attempt Learning to let go of the outcome Letting Go Tip #1 - Find a practice of...

Question: How do I let go of things I can’t control?

A Dave and Heidi story: the cynical season or “life on the edge” and our first forest therapy attempt

  • Learning to let go of the outcome

Letting Go Tip #1 - Find a practice of noticing what we don’t control or can’t control

  • Example: stand in the woods or the yard and note the basic elements of nature around you that you can’t control

Letting Go Tip #2 - Read Job chapters 38-42

  • The duality of meaningfulness and meaninglessness

  • The duality of Challenge and acceptance

  • “Job’s in scripture because his life was hard, not because he was doing really well at it.” 

  • When it feels like God is jacking around with you, building the trust 

Letting Go Tip #3 - Finding non-judgment in nature and God

  • Nature can hold and contain our challenges

  • Psalm 51 - here’s my heart, insight in truth and love

  • Notice what confusion is present and bring it to God

Letting Go Tip #4 - Note the cost of control

Top three psychological impacts of tightly holding onto control -

Stress and anxiety

Relationship impact

Challenges with resilience based on adaptability

Letting Go Tip #4 - Try out an Ecclesiastical Mindset

  • Seasonal approach to living

  • What is it “a time for” right now, but also letting a new season come

  • Ecclesiastes 3 link: https://www.bible.com/bible/111/ECC.3.1-11.NIV

  • Open your hands to share it, don’t go it alone

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